THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT FAILURE
What makes you a fierce boss babe? Being able to go through the trenches and come out 10x stronger. But the only way that happens is by actually going into the trenches.
Do you know that one person who always talks more than they walk? Who’s always coming up with the next great idea but never doing anything about it?
I do! That was me. Maybe you were the same?
For as long as I could remember, I always wanted to start a business but was scared crapless. Of course there’s so many reasons to be afraid. It’s a huge risk and there’s so much unknown. But mainly, I was afraid of it not working out. Of failing and being judged for it. You feel me?
So when I got the opportunity to start my first business with a partner, I was quick to jump on and minimize the risk. I finally took the huge leap towards being a boss babe. Yay me!
But an important piece of the puzzle was missing: PASSION.
I didn’t love what I was doing. But I figured if it didn’t work out, I could use the excuse that it was her idea and not mine...And I did.
How to tell if you’re not truly passionate about something:
You’re not motivated to give 100%
You’re insecure or embarrassed to talk about it
You’re not excited to work on it everyday
Deep down, you now you’re heart’s not in it
You see, fear and passion can’t survive long-term in the same space.
So a year later I made the tough decision to let it go. And even though I knew it was the right thing to do, I felt like a total failure. I beat myself up about not doing better. I looked for external reasons to blame why this and that didn’t work out.
Who did I care so much about impressing? My family and friends. The funny thing is...none of them cared. Nobody cared that my business wasn’t a massive success. They all still loved and supported me. And to anyone who did judge me: Boy, bye!
My biggest fear was actually something I made up in my head and spent too much time trying to justify.
Once I discovered that I gained massive courage and the killer confidence to try again.
If you want to make failure your BFF now, I challenge you to take these steps:
Appreciate your past failures because they made you who you are today (hallelujah!)
Take responsibility for what you could’ve controlled (own it, girl)
Get excited about making more mistakes (so. effing. pumped.)
Use them to take back control of your life (who run the world?)
Get comfortable with living outside of your comfort zone (I go, I go, I go crazyyy)
I launched my second business after I’d gotten pregnant for the second time under 1 year… And I’ve never been more driven. Some call me crazy but like Kehlani says, it only made me more of an assassin!
Everyday I get closer and closer to being the best version of myself. And that makes me feel like a total #badbitch.
If I hadn’t changed my relationship with failure, I’d never be able to create this platform to empower you to live your #FierceFabLife. And what an absolute tragic that’d be!
Failures are stepping stones to the best version of yourself.
Share with me a failure that has made you the incredible badass you are today? How did you overcome and embrace it with arms wide open?
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