When you wake up, do you look at yourself in the mirror and love yourself like it’s Beyonce looking back?

Or are you quick to find the first thing that you wish could be just a litttle bit better? (Armpit fat, thunder thighs, belly fat… we could go on forever with judging ourselves couldn’t we?)

“I wake up looking this good and I wouldn't change it if I could. And you can say what you want I'm the shit. I'm the shit, I'm the shit, I'm the shit. I want everyone to feel like this, tonight. God damn, God damn, God damn!”

Now if I started my day off with these empowering words, then hell yeah. I’d probably feel like Beyonce when I look in the mirror. (click above to jam along to this post)

It’s undeniable that she is one of the baddest chicks on earth. She’s talented, fierce, hardworking, beautiful and down-to-earth. I’d die to be her best friend! Her embodiment of self-love is contagious. #girlpower with thick thighs and whole lotta sass.

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But you’re probably thinking how can we compare ourselves to the queen bee? Fair enough.

I want to share a story of a beautiful girl who was diagnosed with vitiligo at the age of 4. If you don’t know, it’s a pigment condition that causes white patches to form on the skin.

Growing up was extremely hard. All she wanted was to fit in at school and make friends. Instead she found herself alienated, abused and bullied. Imagine being in middle school, all you want to do is meet new people and find your clique. And instead of making your new life-long besties, you got beat up and called names like “zebra” and “milky”.

Heartbreaking. Even as an adult that’d hurt a bit.

“Looking back, I can see that the students who bullied me were just like me, trying to fit in.”

She felt like she had to be like someone else because she wasn’t good enough. So she flipped the script from being the victim to the bully. She would tease other people and put them down in hopes that it would make herself feel better. But it didn’t feel right. It wasn’t who she was.

When you compare yourself to other people, you’re slowing chipping yourself away from the #fiercefab babe you are.

So instead of being someone she thought she needed to be, she decided to make her own mould. To own who she was. And that’s when things turned around for her.

“I loved myself. And with that, opportunities started falling into my lap and I thank God for all of them. Try loving yourself.

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Today, Chantelle Winnie (known as winnieharlow on Instagram), is a 21-year old model, runway queen and an inspiration to anyone who’s ever felt “different”.


She could’ve easily hid in shame, especially after being tormented since she little. But if she did, then the world would’ve missed out on her beautiful soul and powerful message. She challenges the status quo by embracing her bad self.

And she wouldn’t have the massive success she does today unless she loved who she was, white patches and all.

That’s the true definition of being Fab. When you love yourself fully on the inside and out. It’s beyond the surface level and whether you can trust yourself to be great despite what people say.

If you’re struggling to get ahead in your business and to set yourself apart, I challenge you to try these simple tricks:

  • accept yourself, flaws and all

  • think about how you can use your “weakness” as your strength

  • look yourself in the mirror and say with conviction, “I love you” and “You’re the shit” everyday

  • remind yourself that you look SO good and you wouldn’t change a damn thing

  • don’t give a crap what anybody has to say

God damn, God damn, God damn. *Hair Flip & Finger Snap*

By doing this, I know you’ll find more confidence, courage and the right amount of sass to take risks and be heard over all the noise.

Love yourself to the fullest and your business will thrive.

You’re enough. You’re perfect the way you are. Always have been. Always will be.

What’s one thing about yourself you’re going to embrace that will take your business to the next level?

For me, I’m going to embrace my OBSESSION for r&b and hip-hop (and all other music) and allow them to inspire my content creation. Sorry not sorry if it’s not your thing!

PS. If you want to surround yourself with women who got nuttin’ but love for themselves and each other, then click to request to join my Facebook group of powerhouse Boss Babes Building Their Empire!